This is a momentous occasion whether you’ve been planning your wedding since you were a little girl, or you never really thought you would get married. Either way, you and your partner are in love, and want to share your lives together. Perfect!
So, what do you do after getting engaged?
Take a minute
Before you let your excitement get ahead of you, take a minute to breathe and enjoy this big decision. Dance around! Spin your new fiancé around! Have a happy scream – just enjoy it!
Next, breathe again (breathing is important). Don’t post anything on social media just yet.
Call your parents. Call your grandparents. Call your best friends. Remember, nana loves you dearly and would be hurt to find out about your engagement from her neighbour who saw it on Facebook three days later!
Get your nails did!
Before you post a picture of your ring to share with your friends (if that’s your thing) – go get a manicure! Your ring finger is going to be the center of attention for a while.
Now that you’ve called the most important people in your life, and you’ve gone to get your manicure, go ahead and compose a post for social media, but be prepared for your phone to go crazy for the rest of the day!
The “Engagement Grilling”
No one warns you about the questions, so take heed! As soon as you get engaged, you’ll be bombarded with curious friends who want to know:
“How did it happen?”
“When’s the big day?”
“Where are you going to get married?”
“Will you have a church ceremony?”
“What are your colors?”
“Have you found a dress yet?”
“Do you have a baker? My niece has the best bakery in town!”
Now’s a good time to breath again! It’s okay to feel overwhelmed. You may even start to feel snarky. Or maybe depressed that you don’t have all the answers.
Breathe. Smile. Thank people for their offers of help. It’s okay if you don’t have to have all the answers yet, people are asking because they’re excited for you!
Don’t panic if you haven’t even considered when or where your wedding will take place, you have time to decide all that. This is your time to be excited, happy and the center of attention.
Another thing no one tells you: Your recently (and not-so-recently) married friends, and sometimes even strangers on the street, will start piling on the information and their “expert” tips. It can be overwhelming! But they are doing it out of love and excitement for you, so smile and say “thank you!”
The Proposal Story
As you share your story with your married friends, you may begin feel competitive about your proposal story—but don’t. Whether your proposal was planned out for months, or spur-of-the-moment – your story is the best because it’s your story. Embrace it and tell it with pride!
Enjoy Being Engaged
It is absolutely OK to take some time to enjoy being engaged before you jump in to wedding planning. Don’t feel pressured.
Set aside some time for just the two of you. Many of your friends and family members will want to take you out for drinks or dinner to celebrate. Your social calendar may suddenly be packed! But remember that as you go into wedding planning, there might be less time for just the two of you, so go ahead and carve out that time now.
The Practical Stuff
You don’t have to nail down your budget just yet, but it’s helpful to start a checking or savings account that is strictly for wedding expenses. You can start funneling money into that separate account so you will have money available as you incur wedding-related expenses.
Next, you need to get your ring appraised and insured. You might need to get it sized too! It’s tempting to put off these activities because they aren’t fun, but do them anyway. You’ll thank yourself later.
Don’t forget about your friendships. Wedding planning can easily overtake a bride’s life, but it doesn’t have to. Be there for your friends. Celebrate their babies, promotions, and birthdays…keep being a friend to them.